Essentially I ended my relationship, except on the most superficial level, with Milla Ahola after she told me that she called all men "she" and that she was referring to men that she (Milla) considered predators using the pronoun "she". This caused extreme confusion in a conversation and she said she liked that. This practice of hers invisibilizes men in the process of naming sexists and perpetrators (according to Milla) by making all the sexists and misogynists "she". I thought this was so strange and problematic to do and I did not write Milla much after that. Currently at the top of each of her web exchanges she writes (she=he) which in her mind corrects this confusion. I don't believe it does. Because I challenged her on this she called me a feminist patriarch. Whatever.

There were other reasons which I will go into in more detail as I add to this page.

My relationship with Milla was, (as it was with Jennifer) officially over when she called me a "white supremacist". After that I blocked Milla off my chat programs and off my facebook account and any other way I could get her out of my life. I informed her of this at the time. I did this for two reasons. Milla should not have friends who she knows are white supremacists and I don't want anything to do with people who insist I am a white supremacist. So I blocked her and I'll block any of you who agree with her as I find out about it so kindly save me the trouble and remove yourself. thank you.

Months after I blocked her she wrote to me thru another account other than facebook to announce an article she wrote about me on her website and begged for an exchange. She had contacted me several times after I asked her not to. I made no comment about the article, but wrote her back calming reminding her that she was not to contact me ever again. This time, since she ignored my boundaries, I informed her that she would be reported to Gmail abuse if she wrote any thing else.

She posted my email request for her to respect my request and not to contact me again and she called it "defensive" in response to what she had written. Milla has no comprehension when it comes to boundaries. She apparently cannot understand that people have the right to say to her that they want nothing to do with her and are not interested in any exchange on any topic with her for any reason. She apparently does not understand that she is free to write or say or or think or feel anything after that, but that she doesn't have any right to intrude in that person's life directly after that; that it is abusive. ~~Nikki Craft Jan 20, 2010

I will be adding more to this page soon.